Question by chaser324: My divorced mother is starting to date again. Any advice for dealing with it?
So, it looks like this weekend I’ll be meeting my mom’s first boyfriend since she and my dad got divorced. The divorce “process” started about a year ago and finished up only about 3 months ago.
I have to say, I really hate the way my mother has been dealing with this. She seems to be treating me like I’m too stupid to know that she’s been seeing someone for about the past six months.
So, anyway, she’s been planning to come visit my brother and me at college for a few weeks, and then she sends my brother a small little text message yesterday saying she is bringing her “friend” who “has been helping her out a lot since the divorce”. It’s worth noting that I had spoken to her just prior to that on the phone and she didn’t bring it up.
I am feeling very uneasy and stressed out about this whole situation. I have so many mixed emotions, and I just don’t know if I’m going to be able to handle being around this guy. Any advice to help ease my stress and frustration would be appreciated.
Best answer:
Answer by at a loss
Be happy for her. It may not seem like it but she is trying to be careful about your feelings and is really nervous about bringing him around. My mom started dating again a year ago and is so happy now. Your mom deserves to be happy and if you tell her you want her to be happy she will be more at ease and may be more willing to share with you. It is ok to be stressed but know the guy is probably just as stressed as you are!
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